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Hi Everyone! I know I've been absent quite a bit lately here on TDF so I wanted to give you all an update on what's going on with me and Mon Amour Toujours.

1. It was brought to my attention that the store links on my main site were not working. The issue is now resolved. My apologies for any confusion about that.

2. Oct. tends to be a busy month for me as I take on basically another full time job working at the worlds largest Halloween event here in Orlando. This is something I've done for the past five years and something that's a lot of work (on top of what I already have going on) but it's a lot of fun. Along these same lines I have taken on roles in several local film productions one of which is currently on Amazon Prime.

3. In Aug. I resumed classes at the University of Central Florida. I will be completing my MA in sociology next summer or fall. My objective is to utilize my degree to serve the doll community. As a student I am able to have access to resources which allow me to continue with the publishing of my research projects which some of you participated in last year. Having those two letters after my name (MA) will add legitimacy to my research, other publications and speaking engagements.

My school assignments involve a lot of reading and writing, with the Halloween event and attending to customer emails leaves little time for promoting my business. In addition to these things I've been working on several industry related projects:

1. You may notice some changes on the Mon Amour Toujours website. Since the inception of my business I have been calling for industry changes most specifically in the terms that are used to describe the products. I've voiced my thoughts here on the forum as well as other outlets about changing the term "sex doll" to something more benign. The time has come to take this seriously as laws here in the US banning certain size models are becoming more prevalent. I am asking vendors and manufacturers to voluntarily join in on the movement, which I believe, will be a necessity to continue doing business in the US and other markets. I have eliminated the term "sex doll" and replaced it with Action Figure Model (AFM), when an AFM is utilized by the user for intimate purposes the term Intimate Partner Alternative (IPA) is used. Additionally, the more general terms "model/s", "device", "product", "item" ect. is also used to refer to AFMs. This will also be terms used in my research, email conversations and other communications. I do not expect this to effect how the devices are described here on the forum nor do I mean any disrespect to anyone and how they choose to interact with their products. I can no longer assume that a buyer will be utilizing a model for intimate purposes and my objective is to protect you, others and myself.

Please keep in mind that my intent here is not to make this a political post, only informative. If you have any comments you would like to share that would be considered "political" by TDF standards please pm me. The reason I provided this information is to share how my time is utilized when not on the forum. I have provided a recent writing explaining my thoughts on product definitions below if you are interested in the original article let me know.

2. I have two television shows in production which will feature several of the Mon Amour Toujours models. You may have seen the thread with Rock My Doll Music Television here on my section. RMDMTV will hopefully be ready to air by the end of the year. It is scheduled for 12 episodes on the Galaxy Global Television Network. Along with RMDMTV I am producing another show called House of Dolls Midnight Horror Show. This will feature me as the host and several MAT models as sexy versions of famous female horror icons i.e. Bride of Frankenstein, Vampira, and others. HOD will be similar to the Elvira and Creepshow format and will begin production early next year and will also air on GGTVN.

3. April 2020 I will be presenting some of my research findings at the Southern Sociological Society conference in Jacksonville, FL. Basically this is a TED Talk type format in which I will be able to present the findings of my research on "sex doll" owners. This will be the first opportunity I have to speak about my findings to peers and other prominent members of the sociological community. This is especially significant considering the recent ban on "child like sex dolls" here in FL.

4. Early next year I will be added as an advisor for the Prostasia Foundation. The Prostasia Foundation is an organization that promotes evidence based forms of child sex abuse prevention and sex positive dialogs. My role will be to provide my industry experiences and knowledge for policy recommendations and public statements my research will also be vital to their mission. Additionally I will be contributing editor to letters addressed to policy makers and even journalists. I am currently working with PF in this capacity just not officially.

In addition to these things be watching for-

HR Male model review- This will be from a woman's perspective not mine. A very unique opportunity!
IL/Hit Doll model review
Irontech model review
More instructional videos
And of course more updates here on TDF

Thank you all so much for your continued support. Know that if you don't see me here I am working for you behind the scenes. I consider it an honor to represent so many that have done so much for me.

For your consideration, posted on a non-industry related forum:

Symbolism and Consequences

I would like to preface this thread by stating I am a vendor of devices commonly known as “sex dolls” and a researcher of the subject with three studies currently in various stages of progress for publication. I endorse evidence-based research for child abuse prevention and support any individual who decides to purchase this type of device, regardless of appearance and size, for intimate or sexual purposes. I hold a BA in psychology and am currently a UCF graduate student enrolled in the sociology program, I will be defending my thesis summer of 2020.

Although marketed as “sex dolls” this term to describe such a device is inaccurate and limiting. Many individuals purchase these devices for other non-sexual purposes. By continuing to use the term “sex doll” the symbolism this term represents reinforces a culture that attaches negative meaning to the representation of women (and potentially children) as sexual playthings. The consequences of using the term “sex doll” within the current symbolism has encouraged the demonization of the user and scrutiny of the device as having immoral implications. In order to reverse these negative connotations, I believe more inclusive, standard terms must be implemented within the industry including vendors and manufacturers, scientific community and related discussions.

Several years ago, on a prominent doll forum I suggested the term Intimate Partner Alternative (IPA) to replace the more colloquial term “sex doll”; this suggestion was met with a lukewarm reception to say the least. Although not practical for marketing purposes I have incorporated Intimate Partner Alternative as often as possible on my website, research projects and discussions about the subject. IPA is an applicable term for those utilizing the products to express all forms of intimacy such as surrogate relationships- both sexual and non-sexual, expressions of affections and strictly sexual behaviors such as masturbation. The term IPA may represent a more inclusive utilization of the devices for intimate reasons, but it still lacks an all-inclusive meaning.

At the end of the day we have a device and the user of the device. The device in question just happens to be in the form of a human effigy, this form can be male or female, have the appearance of any age and even be a fantasy creature with human like features. Because said device is capable of being positioned into a variety of poses like a child’s doll or action figure, they are in essences a large-scale action figure models (AFM). The AFM is typically anatomically correct and possesses either male or female body features including genitalia; having such features allows the user to interact with the device in sexual gratifying ways. How this device is utilized is determined by the end user. Users of the devices can interact with them in a variety of intimate and non-intimate ways. For those that choose to interact with these devices in an intimate fashion the term “Intimate Partner Alternative” may be more appropriate to describe the device in this type of setting.

As a vendor and researcher, I feel it necessary, as well as a responsibility, to present these devices in such a way they a. Are descriptively more inclusive b. Dispel negative connotations and c. Promote the positive aspects of the devices. I have taken it upon myself to begin transitioning to the following terms in my business and research-

Action Figure Model (AFM)- Used to describe any large-scale human effigy type figure that can be posed in a variety of positions. This device includes representations of males, females or transsexuals, have the appearance of any age and may be a fantasy creature with human like features i.e. vampire, elf, demon etc. The AFM is typically anatomically correct and possesses either male or female body features (or both) including genitalia.This term best describes the device when utilized in non-intimate ways such as photography models or displays.

Intimate Partner Alternative (IPA)- A term used to describe any AFM when the device is utilized for intimate and sexual purposes such as but not limited to- a relationship surrogate, outlet for expressing affection or sexual gratification i.e. masturbation.

Some may consider such terms suggested above impersonal. It is not my intent to diminish the relationship one may have with their AFM. By adopting more inclusive general terms we begin the process of dispelling the current negative symbolism these devices possess therefore improving the image of the device and device user in the public eye. I encourage other vendors, manufacturers, researchers and AFM users to support and adopt these or similar terms in both public and private. This action is only one step in rebranding these products for a more positive public image. For more information about understanding symbolic-consequences in this context please refer to chapter 7 of Robot Sex- Social and Ethical Implications edited by John Danaher and Neil McArthur.
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I like your acronyms. This seems like a reasonable course to take for the reasons that you state, if not just for "good taste" alone. Break a leg at the presentation!
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it is dumb to call them sex dolls. We probably all use our pc's more for masturbation than a doll so should we call our computers sex machines?
I've always liked the term Idoloid, but I think that was mainly used by a Japanese doll magazine

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Sex sells, so most of the doll industry will keep on offering sex dolls. Personally I prefer love dolls. Most other terms are too artificial to me.

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I think the main reason for the lukewarm reception is that both IPA as well as AFM are devoid of anything that generates any emotion in someone who hears those words. Although, that may well have been the goal you had when you were choosing those words.

I think they're unlikely to see widespread use here, at least not for quite a while, but they do present a neutral way of talking about the subject, which I suspect will be very welcome in, for example, the academic community. I wouldn't be surprised to see the terms to be adopted there first. Perhaps especially for psychiatry. It sounds so much more proper to prescribe someone an Intimate Partner Alternative than a sex doll.
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You are absolutely correct in your assessment... Most of my dolls are not used for sex but are simply artificial companions. The term really should be changed to something more accurate!

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Interesting read, Don... i always thought the term "sex doll" to be rather limiting myself, as it doesn't really give a full picture.

Personally, i don't really use any specific term to refer to my dolls, i just call them by their first name :wink:

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Lots of good thinking Don, and you are doing a great job at communicating it clearly.

I agree that the term "sex doll" needs to go. There was even a time a while back when they were thinking of changing the forum name to "The Sex Doll forum" or something similar. Glad that didn't happen.

Action figure model is OK, but I'm wondering if the term "model" is really needed.
I've always thought the term "Adult Action Figure" would be pretty descriptive without being too specific about how it would be used. Similar to how we've replaced the word "porn" with "adult", i.e. "Porn star" becomes "adult film actress", or porn movies become "adult films". Using the word adult would make it clear that these items are intended for adult use and not as a toy for children.

Perhaps the term "model" could be better reserved for differentiating types of action figures - i.e. the Rebecca model or Bob model adult action figure. Anyway, just my 2 cents.

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Thank you for your comments, compliments and input guys. In the original post I think I've already addressed the concerns brought up. Most of the rebranding process has been discussed and agreed upon by the lawyer who works with the Prostasia Foundation.

@MannequinFan- the Action Figure Model term was really generated from customer responses. More and more of my sales are coming from individuals who do not utilize the products for intimate purposes so they call them something else- action figures or models, I just combined the two term to differentiate them from the smaller ones.

It's still business as usual at Mon Amour Toujours. I approve and accept everyone for who they are and whatever creative ways they interact with their models :D
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Good reading...they can be called “life savers”...

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I've been thinking of mine as "placebo women" or something like that.
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Agree with the sentiment for the most part. But those acronyms could use some work. The whole thing feels a bit "sanitation expert, and maintenance engineer" to me. Sorry, Replacements reference.
Those acronyms still somewhat imply forms of usage. Find something simpler that just describes what they are, specifically and concisely.

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Ever since I was a child I've had to defend my toys by shouting,
"They're not DOLLS, they're ACTION FIGURES!"

So I say why should these be any different? After all, they really are action figures now aren't they?... and man are they ever!
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I dislike the term 'sex doll' and certainly do not apply it to Ami. She's my companion. There's a lot more to it than that, but that's how I see her.

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