Lexie- my JY Doll
Lexie- my JY Doll
It was my intent to see if the doll could be used for therapy. As a licensed counselor, I have a number of clients who have issues with sex, intimacy, self-esteem, porn addiction, and so on.
While love dolls have proven to be effective for use of therapy, I found many to be poorly made. People become attached to their dolls, and don’t need them to fall apart in the middle of therapy, or they end up having to deal with loss. So it is important to find a well made doll.
Before JY, I purchased two other dolls from two different companies. The first one was so poorly made that I had to return it. The second fell apart after two months. After the second doll, I did an extensive amount of research and found the JY Doll Company. I spent more on the JY Doll than the other two, but she was worth it. After having my JY Doll for a year, she only has some minor issues – which any well-made doll would have after a year’s worth of use.
Because of this, I would highly recommend the JY Doll Company. Not only are their dolls exceptional, but also they continue to improve on their models. When I stated to JY that the neck had an issue, they improved the model’s design, and the neck is no longer a problem.
That being said, you still need to take care of the doll to increase her longevity. It is advertised as having three "love holes." While that is true, the mouth and anus can rip easily (as with any doll, apparently). The vagina hole can rip as well if the legs are stretched too far apart. So, if you plan to use the doll vigorously, be careful. Also be mindful of the hands and fingers. Every doll I've come across seems to have delicate fingers. The second doll I owned ended up having most of the fingers pulled loose from the metal skeleton, and one of the hands detached completely. I was more careful with my JY Doll, and the wrists and fingers have lasted for a year. So, again, be careful with use, and she will last.
Booty Call Dolls has a great website on how to maintain your doll. If you have never purchased a doll, or are having trouble finding a doll you like, Jeff at Booty Call Dolls is an excellent resource, and cares about his customers.
Again, I haven nothing but good to say about my JY Doll, and I would trust them with my business again.
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Hi, I just saw your post about JY, where you mentioned being a therapist. There's a lot of stories on this forum that have interesting psychological stuff going on. Particularly people who anthropomorphize their doll and treat them like a real woman. I presume they're projecting parts of themselves on to the doll, and get angry when people remind them that they're inanimate objects. Have you been able to recommend sex dolls as a form of therapy even if people do this?
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The topic of agalmatophilia, the attraction to a statue, object, or doll, has been discussed and researched at great length by philosophers and clinicians. Some think its a form of paraphilia (sexual fettish... or "perversion" if you go back a few years). I think what the doll is depends on the mind of the owner. That being said, I would listen to my client first, see why they would benefit from a doll, and then suggest one, but with warning.
The warning being that, if a person become emotionally connected to a doll, then at some point that person will experience loss, but what he learn about himself before that happens can be worth the experience. The doll is a reflection of what one wants it to be. It can be a tool to express love, to explore sexuality, to role-play, plus a number of other uses.
As for getting angry when someone tries to ridicule or diminish the experience that person has chosen to have, I would tell the doll owner that owning a doll is no different than owning a stuffed animal, except that it can trigger parts of the brain a stuffed animal cannot. Also, there is absolutely nothing wrong with exploring sexuality, unless a person think there is. So I would have to work with the client to reduce any shame, guilt, or negative feeling about having a doll. If someone else has a problem with it... then it is someone else's problem.
I'm going to write some essays on doll psychology later, but the one thing that lead me to consider love dolls as a form of therapy was the experiment with "contact comfort" that Harry Harlow did with infant rhesus monkeys. Many people have a desire for contact and touch (not just sexual). If a human is unable to have a mate for whatever reason, then that human is unable to express a part of themselves that produces cretonne and dopamine, and some can even go into a state of mild or deep depression.
My question was, "what would happen if a love doll was introduced to a depressed client who's depression was caused by loneliness, or by not having the ability to take on a mate?". "What would happen if the doll was introduced to a client who had issues with sex, porn addiction, or had 'physical touch' as a love language and had no one to share it with?" (see "The Five Love Languages").
Some doll owners had a substantial change in mood after the doll was introduced, with instruction on how to use the doll for therapy (and some without instruction).
In short, even with the experience of loss, and with possible ridicule by people who aren't open to therapy dolls, I would still suggest one to a client depending on if I thought it would be beneficial.
I don't have a lot of time to write, but I will keep adding as I can.
I would also be interesting in what you think.
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-princeoverit. One vendor name kept coming up as being great at helping customers walk through the process, Booty Call Dolls. So I decided I would work with them on this first purchase, and did.
-Just in timeYou could not of found a better person to help you with your first doll. Jeff /Booty call dolls, knows his stuff... One of the few members that is a vendor and a real lover of dolls. He owns quite a few dolls, and really understands the love we all share.
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This is so true and I have experienced it first hand.Dees luver wrote:Quote- If a human is unable to have a mate for whatever reason, then that human is unable to express a part of themselves that produces cretonne and dopamine, and some can even go into a state of mild or deep depression.
This was me before I discovered dolls, My life is very much improved with dolls
Girlfriends are for guys who haven't found the right doll yet.
I feel much better now that I've given up hope.
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That being said, I am so happy I made the decision to bring a doll into my life. She really has been a joy. I didn't expect her to take on a personality, or have emotions, but my imagination can do amazing things. She has become real to me, and I am okay with that. It helps that I have two friends that completely support my attachment to her (one a girl), and that my parents support it too.
The only difficulty I am having is that, after two years, she is showing wear and tear. She wishes her manufacturer has created stronger hands and fingers... and her silicone is starting to break down. I take very good care of her, but I know that one day I will experience the feeling of loss - but I try not to think of that.
For now Lexie enjoys watching sunsets through my bedroom window as I finish work. Sometimes I watch them with her. Right now we are going to spend the evening curled up on the couch watching a movie.
I feel very fortunate to have had this experience. I have learned a lot about myself. I may start dating again some time in the future, but I am in no rush. If I do date, it will have to be with someone who doesn't mind that I fell in love with a doll.