hiding your doll from judgmental people
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Life is short, do something that makes you happy and stop worrying what others think or do. If I do, chances are I might not be here typing this comment. Enjoy your doll!
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Re: hiding your doll from judgmental people
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Here's a solution :
Hide him in plain sight under a lamp's cover. On a more serious note, the only ones who are affected by the fact that you have Rob are people...
1) Who don't understand why you have him or who have the wrong idea about why you have him.
2) Who are jealous that you have him.
3) Who are jealous of you being happy with him.
4) Simply love to make fun (or hate) things or people that aren't exactly like them.
Now, how most of us cope with it is simply by accepting that we're us and they are them.
If people stop talking to you ever since they heard you have him, simply ignore those people and look forward at talking with those who still talk to you. Even if you really have appreciated someone for years, while it might have felt as mutual, it's not always the case.
If someone dares to tell you that it's wrong or that it's unnatural, don't fear to remind them that masturbating while watching porn is also unnatural and using a dildo or a sock or whatever is also unnatural and Rob is basically a Rolls Royce in front of their Honda Civic called "a dildo" and that you're proud of having him.
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That what i did with my doll and nobody noticed it was a sex doll but instead they were very impressed with the realism of the doll and the beautiful historic costume that he was wearing !
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all the guys at work know i am getting a doll, my boss just tells me his wife isn't putting out and if they are any good he is looking at getting one lol
the other he is secure in his relationship with his misses and doesn't care if his misses sleeps with other guys as long as she tells him and she always uses protection, ans she has the saem rule for him,
but the guy in my work that has the issue with me getting a doll, is the guy who think his misses masturbating is cheating cause she could be thinking about someone else, i was like dude
when i had a girlfriend when i was to tired to do the business and just wanted to sleep i used to open the top draw and give her, her vibrator so i could sleep, he looked at me in horror.
when you can get over what people think i think it becomes alot easier for people accept if you show that it makes you happy but there is also the people know are judgemental fucks that aint even happy in their own life.
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Can you post pictures of him? This is what actually intrigued me into getting a male doll as a man, is the cool factor of how they would look if you made them into some type of action figure like made them dress like Sephiroth and gave him a sword or a samurai or something cool, its something you hardly see or hear about being done, its outside of the norm of their intended use BUT i can see these types of dolls gain huge appeal in the collectors circle when you can have some realistic cool doll be whatever character from any fantasy series you want. Want a life-size Ironman? well get the doll and put the suit on him watch everyone lose their minds at the awesomeness.Caprice wrote:My advice : Do not Dress him with casual clothe but with "Historic" or "Victorian" Clothes instead.
That what i did with my doll and nobody noticed it was a sex doll but instead they were very impressed with the realism of the doll and the beautiful historic costume that he was wearing !
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Hacksaw, or bolt cutters
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Ur_ginger_girl wrote:I haven't posted in a while, but I finally have access to a computer, so I figured that I would. I've had my doll, Rob, for seven years, and I was wondering if anyone else has to hide their dolls from parents or roommates or family. My mom passed away in July, and she was the only person who knew about Rob and didn't hate him. My dad hates him, and acts like he doesn't exist. I feel like I have to hide him, and I'm even scared to take him downstairs at night to watch Netflix, because my dad my come downstairs and see him.
It's gotten to the point that I look at him as a boyfriend, and I've given up on real relationships. I feel like I have to be ashamed of him, because, of the three or four people that I have told, none of them approved and most of them acted like they weren't gonna judge, but they stopped talking to me soon after, or in one case they told people about him, so that I would get shit about it at school. I love Rob, and I wouldn't leave him over something like this, but it sucks, and I don't see why people can't be more accepting of idollators (not sure if that's an appropriate term.) Basically, I just want to know if anyone else has these problems. I wanna know how people deal with it. I want to know if there's anyone else in a long-term sort of committed relationship with a doll thats dealing with this shit. Thanks in advance.
Sorry to hear about your problems...can't be easy having to deal with all that negativity.
Sadly, thats still part and parcel of love doll ownership. They are still seen by many people as something weird and pervy and abnormal.
Obviously I don't know your family situation, but I would have thought if they really cared about your happiness, they would have been more understanding and accepting.
Unfortunately, there is no way to force people to think differently, or make them accept your life choices.
I think many of us are either fortunate enough to have understanding partners, or else live on our own, so we can do more or less what we like. I can only imagine how awkward it must be as a doll owner, to have to share a place with people who clearly don't approve of them.
I'm not sure there is much you can do, except try to talk to them and get them to understand...or at least acknowledge you have the right to make these choices. By way of compromise you could try to come to some arrangement about when and where you can hang out with your doll.
By far the easiest solution would be to get a place of your own. Not always a realistic solution I know, but maybe something to think about / work towards?
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Like many here, I have a lot of empathy for people in your situation. You haven't revealed your age, but I'm going to guess that you're fairly young. I would encourage you to consider that seeking the approval of parents and other elders is instinctual- especially in children- and a hallmark of our evolutionary psychology. Having parents who over scrutinize or outright disapprove of any life choice (gender identity, sexual orientation, career pursuits, hobbies) can be very debilitating. From ages 10-18, my memories of my father are almost exclusively those of him shouting at me or employing negative tactics to discourage me from the things I wanted to do. Things other people would be thrilled to see their kids pursue. Our relationship went pretty cold after I moved out and it took him years to accept that I wasn't going to respond to his bullshit.
If you're in a position wherein you depend on your father and others for housing and other forms of support then it's all the more difficult to cope with their disapproval. I guess it depends on whether any of them try to use what they see as personal power over you to compel compliance with their views and demands of you. Parents do tend to live vicariously through their children and they often think that they know what's best for you- to the extent that they'll try to dissuade you from doing what's best for you. Some people, especially fathers, often take a cookie cutter approach toward others. My father's selfish and unsympathetic recipe for my sisters' happiness was marry well and bear grandchildren. He wanted that for himself, not them.
Having said that- in order to set the groundwork for what I'm gonna say next- please consider that in terms of mate selection you may be ahead of your time. By all indications, dolls and robots will only become more popular and may even gain general acceptance as a simple lifestyle choice. Let those who don't understand or approve shine on and buzz off. Seek associations with forward-thinking people who either approve or at least understand- I think that karpos' suggestion about looking into the fetish community is worth exploring.
I may be wrong, but based on when you joined TDF and the number of your posts, it seems that you may be hesitant to engage with others in the virtual/social media world as well- at least when it comes to dolls and the lifestyle. I hope that you yourself are not among the people who judge you harshly. There is nothing wrong with you or your choice to enjoy an intimate relationship with your Rob and though it may be difficult to cope with the conflict between your happiness with him and wanting to please others in your life, my own life experience indicates that Rob will always be with you even as the others- being fickle and selfish by nature- will come and go. There may come a day when you, like others here including me, are perfectly fine with having Rob sitting on a sofa while the cable TV guy installs new gear a few meters away.
Lastly, I may have a friendly little "assignment" for you should it prove helpful. Worry less about what others may think and take loving stock of yourself. Take some time to clarify and affirm your own desires and pursue the things that make you happy. Meditate on letting go of any desire to obtain approval or validation from others, perhaps especially those closest to you. Love yourself and embrace your natural born right to unabashedly experience joy and contentment on your own terms.
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