shimu3z wrote:AlexKnight,
It is a wondrous thing. I had not expected it like this. I think some of it is knowing you are not disappointing anyone or not doing what they want. It's a freedom to be the way you want.
That's how I feel with Aki. No pressure to do something or not do it if you don't feel like it. I don't think I've disappointed any partners except for an "infrequency" of sexual activity, but I would feel guilty about it and so do it to please them which ends up being a mistake for me in the long run.
Papa Bear wrote:Shimu,
I always thought performance anxiety was an exclusively male issue, I didn't realize women felt that way too.
We can have all sorts of hang ups about sex too. I avoided talking about mine with a previous partner because I was afraid he would think there was something wrong with him. I was thinking that guys probably take their sexuality and performance very seriously. It takes a strong relationship to talk openly about sexual issues and if you can, that's wonderful.
AlexKnight wrote:All the issues men and women can name, regarding relationship troubles, go for both sexes, none are exclusive to the other.
Yup.
Stephanie RD wrote:
If Ocean is shy about showing off his endowments, some photos of him pitching a tent in various articles of clothing would be very hot.
I'm the one who is shy about Aki, he'd probably show his off. Anyway, I think photos of sexy clothing are better- leaves more to the imagination