As far as I understand sex between men and women, women need to have (that is most women) an emotional connection first and the physical follows that. For guys, it is often the opposite. Funny how that works out sometimes.47616902 wrote:What an insightful answer. Honestly, I was sitting around waiting for an answer that revolved around physical difference (typical male that I am), and your answer gives an emotional justification. That sooooo supports everything that I've read (studied a bit on the subject).
47616902 wrote:But the real reason that women may not be enjoying sex with their man (speaking mainly about marriages) is because of lack of being comfortable.
Men are visual and want to see their partner, but women (thanks to our media infested world) tend to be incredibly uncomfortable with thier bodies (even if they have a super model body). And of course, the level of emotional intimancy that she has or doesn't have with the her partner totally opens or shuts the door to enjoyment.
Yes, I totally agree. It doesn't just happen in marriages though, it could be any sexual relationship. I would tend to think that in a marriage, the woman may have the chance to become more comfortable (is that too optimistic?).
It is true that we (women) have all this "stuff" going on in our minds all the time about body image/emotions/what happens next, etc. sometimes we are not even conscious of all of it. Our comfort level has ALOT to do with our own perceptions of ourselves. One key feature (IMO) for a successful sexual relationship is that the woman feels safe to express herself.
Another problem that women face, besides the media, is a double standard when it comes to us being sexual. This may come from religion, upbringing, coming from a conservative background, etc. Here's an example: I was raised Roman Catholic. I am not religious and only part of my family is. Religion and being conservative teaches women that sex is dirty, not holy, only for procreation, and you are a bad person if you go around enjoying it. It supresses/makes us feels bad about our bodies and desires. Still today, it's perfectly normal for a man to be sexual- he is even encouraged to do so. For women, if you are- you're a slut or worse.
Then we have the flip side- the media. Where we are encouraged to be sexual and beautiful- impossible standards. It's scary that pre-teens are now dressing as if they are 18 or older. Message here- you don't matter or men won't like you if you're not beautiful or sexy. Confusing, no?
Crap, I didn't mean to write a "book." Some of us women are complicated. For me, it has alot to do with psychological stuff. There are things I don't like about my body, but I'm the correct weight/height ratio with average looks. But, yes, with Aki all the "stuff" isn't there. I'm sure this is where men and women have some of same reasons for owning a doll47616902 wrote:So it makes total sense that if a woman had a doll, with whom all of the issues of appearance no longer apply, and there is no fear of betrayal, exploitation, or taking for granted, then it would stand to reason that a woman with a doll could enjoy that doll more because it's not an uphill battle to get to the point of enjoying him.