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Knightshift wrote:After seeing much of the current media about dolls, barring a few rare exceptions, it is quite clear that neither the media nor the general populace has any intention of accepting those of us who own dolls as anything less than sad, lonely, desperate and perverse deviants who should all just end our miserable, pathetic existence right now. They will continue to paint us with the same brush. I hope that someday, artists and manufacturers like Matt McMullen and those who share his vision, will find a way to break down the barriers of ignorance so that doll ownership will be as mainstream as any other adult product on the market without anyone batting an eye.
It’s almost funny. Only the narrow minds that were against birth control, nigh abortion, and the round earth verses the flat earth will go the way of the dinosaur. We pioneers of the movement will be interred with the objects of our affection into perpetuity. As we moulder into dust they will sentinel our transformation with perpetual beauty. When they exhume us, the permenant smile on our mummified faces, then they will hail us as the progenitors of a new era.

Meanwhile keep the ladies hidden, until then. Lol

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Jamielin wrote:how is it an affair if his wife knows about it? I bet she isn't interested in sex anymore and thats why he started buying the dolls.
To be fair, would you want that fella coming after you?
kruiser wrote:Same nasty comments from uneducated people who want to force their views onto others , makes me wonder how they go through life with so much hatred inside themselves. I do feel a bit sorry for his wife though when he mentioned if it came down to a choice between her and the doll he wouldn't know what to do , tells me they have some issues going on there. People are just gonna have to get over themselves eventually, they can hate dolls all they want, thousands of men are already lined up to buy them.

I also feel sorry for his wife. The #1 thing women want is stability, that comment shows that is not there for her. She's probably better off finding a home with other women and living the Golden Girls lifestyle. Sometimes when older men crave a very young sex partner, it's because they feel bad about aging and have not accomplished what they wish they had. Not always, but sometimes. Dolls help them feel better about themselves, but it's no excuse to shit all over the one person that's grown old with you and loved you for so long. The most precious thing anyone can give you is their time. It's very, very sad this man has emotionally and possibly affectionately abandoned his wife. Older people have trouble having sex sometimes but no one gets too old for holding hands, hugs or kisses. I don't know anyone that's ever complained of being told and demonstrated they are loved and valued by their partner. This guy is a prime example of why I've denied men marriage.

Yes, people are going to be very nasty to others, it's going to happen when people open up about being doll owners. The nice people who have healthy and stable relationships AND dolls are few and far between. Let's thank Mr and Mrs Midiman for their appearances in the media to share with dolls. Most of the comments about this couple in a feature for online Cosmo were very supportive and sweet... all of those comments were written by women.

Sadly, the media likes to gobble up sensationalized garbage stories that betray the intentions of the people they feature. More and more people are going to discover dolls and buy them. In 20 years from now, they will be common and accepted.

Knightshift, I've never taken a dildo or vibe out for dinner, did photo shoots, bought it clothes or jewelry... or went to a forum to connect with other dildo and vibe owners... so that's comparing apples to oranges.
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Jamielin wrote:how is it an affair if his wife knows about it? I bet she isn't interested in sex anymore and thats why he started buying the dolls.
To be fair, would you want that fella coming after you?
kruiser wrote:Same nasty comments from uneducated people who want to force their views onto others , makes me wonder how they go through life with so much hatred inside themselves. I do feel a bit sorry for his wife though when he mentioned if it came down to a choice between her and the doll he wouldn't know what to do , tells me they have some issues going on there. People are just gonna have to get over themselves eventually, they can hate dolls all they want, thousands of men are already lined up to buy them.

I also feel sorry for his wife. The #1 thing women want is stability, that comment shows that is not there for her. She's probably better off finding a home with other women and living the Golden Girls lifestyle. Sometimes when older men crave a very young sex partner, it's because they feel bad about aging and have not accomplished what they wish they had. Not always, but sometimes. Dolls help them feel better about themselves, but it's no excuse to shit all over the one person that's grown old with you and loved you for so long. The most precious thing anyone can give you is their time. It's very, very sad this man has emotionally and possibly affectionately abandoned his wife. Older people have trouble having sex sometimes but no one gets to old for holding hands, hugs or kisses.

Yes, people are going to be very nasty to others, it's going to happen when people open up about being doll owners. The nice people who have healthy and stable relationships AND dolls are few and far between. Let's thank Mr and Mrs Midiman for their appearances in the media to share with dolls. Most of the comments about this couple in a feature for online Cosmo were very supportive and sweet... all of those comments were written by women.

Sadly, the media likes to gobble up sensationalized garbage stories that betray the intentions of the people they feature. More and more people are going to discover dolls and buy them. In 20 years from now, they will be common and accepted.

Knightshift, I've never taken a dildo or vibe out for dinner, did photo shoots, bought it clothes or jewelry... or went to a forum to connect with other dildo and vibe owners... so that's comparing apples to oranges.

violette_22,

I agree with everything in your post. Even the apples to oranges comment. However, even though the Joker meme is meant with a sense of humor, it is still relevant to the original post of this thread. Even if we take out the relationship aspect of this man's doll, for men, it is till taboo to have a doll even if he were single. Women throw sex toy parties like Tupperware parties and everyone thinks it's fabulous! These toys and dildos are promoted as "marital enhancements" in some cases. Dolls are the same thing for the couples that we have on this forum. Now lets see what happens if men throw a doll party in the same way the ladies throw their toy parties! 8O I think we all know how society would react. So, apples to oranges? yes and no... depending on the context of how it is used and perceived.
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Ummm I have a doll, and I don't see dolls as being anything like a battery sex toy. The guys DO have doll parties, and the issue/problem here isn't dolls. Guys eat sushi off naked women, go to strip clubs, porn is nearly exclusively made for men, escorts for women are rare and if I want to see some hot hunks strip down for my dollars, I have to wait for a male review to just happen to pop us. The issue is that men's sexuality is not accepted the same way women's sexuality is and vice versa. If a guy has had 50+ sex partners, he's envied. If a woman does this same thing, she must have bad morals. It's okay for guys to have hookers and porn... not much for women in that department. The dolls for women are really just dildo holders. There's several reasons for this but it all comes down to fear, misunderstandings and emotional pain.

Toys are marital enhancements for husbands that fail to understand or care to know how to help their wife have an orgasm.
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Again, you are spot on and I'm not arguing with you. But there are many doll owners who, for them, the doll is just a toy to scratch their itch. Not all guys treat their dolls with emotional attachment. But the stigma still applies about having the doll. And yes, I very much agree with you its about ignorance and fear and the assault on men's sexuality.
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I'm not arguing either, just explaining. In 20 years, dolls will be a non-issue. In a few years, I will no longer have a reason to avoid the media myself. I too, am sick and tired of some of the portrayals of doll ownership and them being paraded around as something seedy for dirty-old-men and pseudo partners for those with emotional and social disabilities. Sure, they do that (thankfully) but there's so much more to it.

I want whoever wants to have a doll to have one and enjoy them freely but I also don't want sex dolls to be used to hurt other people (esp RL partners) or expose them to minors. That just crosses the line of basic manners and trying to make other people feel reasonably comfortable.
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I have to say, James is awesome. He's extremely kind. He cares a lot about dolls, and a lot about people. He's helped Mary Jane and I so much we could never sufficiently thank him. He and Miss Atleur are doing great things for dolls.

Where is this documentary being shown?

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While I agree that a woman's dildoes and vibrators aren't in the same league as a doll, the issue at hand is the shame that men are subjected to in regards to their sexuality REGARDLESS of the toy of their choice.

This is on full display in popular culture by the different portrayals of masturbation between men and women. Just watch any movie in which a woman is shown mastubating. She will usually be an extremely attractive woman who is simply "Exploring her body" or "Enjoying her sexuality." The act itself is never portrayed in a negative way and the woman is never portrayed as a "loser" or "weirdo." She will usually be shown as a strong, independent woman.

On the other hand, when it comes to men masturbating; the man will ALWAYS be portrayed as a loser or degenerate pervert with severe mental health issues. In a best case scenario, he may be portrayed as a "lovable loser." But still a loser nonetheless. :(

Hopefully no one will misconstrue what I just said as any sort of woman bash because it's not. Nor am I saying that women shouldn't embrace their sexuality. I was mostly trying to make an observation. :wink:

I liked the article for the most part. Although there were a few snafus. Such as RealDolls being made of "latex" :roll: And a lot of the hateful comments certainly got my blood pressure up! :evil:

But at any rate; not too bad. And kudos to James for being brave enough to share his story. :glou:
No matter how pretty she is, there is a guy out there somewhere who is tired of her shit!

Girlfriends are for guys who haven't found the right doll yet.

I feel much better now that I've given up hope.

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You are right, Stewie.

It's only okay for women to have displays of sexuality if they are alone or with a partner. When women do sex work in porn or prostitution, they are now regarded as less than human because that's how they are treating themselves. Yes, there are male prostitutes but they also service men. A guy alone is seen as a loser because he's not having sex with random women. If a guy has a scene with a partner, he's seen as being pussy whipped and weak, unless the sex is really 'hot' or 'rough'. The only times you can see an actual couple genuinely enjoying themselves and sharing that is in amateur productions and those are not highly popular if the couple just looks 'average', like the lot of us. It's a darn shame that boys are socialized with harmful ideas that their body isn't precious and special too. It's the root cause of a lot of problems. If men guarded their seed as diligently as women are taught to guard our reproductive tracts, there would be a lot less misery in the world. The spread of disease and the burden of unplanned new life would save us all a lot of heartache.

Sure, dolls can just be toys but as we all know very well, they can also be a partner. It's nice James has shared his story and told how his life is better because he has dolls. The negative here is that he now does not value his marriage or his wife, which he choose to have before dolls. Of course, the quote can be taken out of context and his intended message is lost, but that is the only information provided in the article. Real women will not want sex unless they feel safe, comfortable and desired. From his comment in the article, this isn't helping her feel nice enough to want to be intimate.
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Wow, Violette. That's a lot of assumptions you have made about James and his family.

Have you ever spoken with him, or his wife? Do you know anything about him?

It's women like you who brought me to dolls. And ensure I'll never want another real woman again.

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He explains: "Most doll owners, although they do go into it with the doll as a sex toy, they find they do develop a relationship with it. If I had to choose between April and my wife I honestly don't know what I would do."

That's what the story says, his quote. This is what the media is presenting about dolls. This is what people see. I'm glad you have a doll as well. They serve an important purpose. They bring a lot of joy, purpose and even save lives and some from jail time. I just hope not many owners would have a problem choosing between an actual living, breathing human that they've made a spouse and a possession that is mass produced. This is what's being presented and giving fuel to the Anti Sex Robot movement. Some dolls are already illegal in parts of the world, do you want that to continue? I don't. It's these portrayals of dolls that's going to cause it.

As far as blaming others for your own choices, values and thoughts, that's all you. You do you. Not anyone's business but yours. I think anyone should have any type of doll that will scratch their itch. I understand you think I am attacking your friend. I disagree with the presentation of the article and am pointing out that he's a classic example of what that terrible woman, Kathleen Richardson screeches on and on about.

Look for yourself.
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