Not quite what I was expecting ...

Kaitlyn D · Post by **Kaitlyn D** » Thu May 28, 2020 6:54 pm

So yes, I can post pictures now - hooray!

So, here we go:

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Enjoy!

MoviePilot · Post by **MoviePilot** » Thu May 28, 2020 8:06 pm

Congrats on your new lady. Nice tits

btw, what additional stuff was in the package to protect the doll while shipping?

seagull · Post by **seagull** » Thu May 28, 2020 8:07 pm

Wow! Just wow

Kaitlyn D · Post by **Kaitlyn D** » Fri May 29, 2020 12:22 pm

btw, what additional stuff was in the package to protect the doll while shipping?

There's are a few other other polystyrene-like chunks that don't fit while her head is attached, plus the accessories bag and a blanket. All the limbs were wrapped up, as was the head (which comes in its own bag) and the whole body came in a plastic bag. I would say extremely well packaged - they knew exactly what they were doing and it got here with no damage at all. The box is also incredibly sturdy.

John100 · Post by **John100** » Sun May 31, 2020 8:29 am

So are you still having second thoughts after the feedback and advice from all our fellow friends here

Kaitlyn D · Post by **Kaitlyn D** » Sun May 31, 2020 5:10 pm

So are you still having second thoughts after the feedback and advice from all our fellow friends here

I think I've calmed down a bit and stopped freaking out, which is a good start, but I'm still not sure the doll's life is for me. Like most people said, it might take a bit of time, but honestly I still don't think it feels right for me.

kanna · Post by **kanna** » Sun May 31, 2020 5:40 pm

Kaitlyn D wrote:I think I've calmed down a bit and stopped freaking out, which is a good start, but I'm still not sure the doll's life is for me. Like most people said, it might take a bit of time, but honestly I still don't think it feels right for me.

What do you mean with "feels right for me"? If that's something you don't quite understand, it's a good idea to understand that before you get rid of the doll. That's what will eventually resolve the confusion.

But if that takes time, in the meanwhile, it's also a good idea to examine your subconscious reaction to the prospect of making a decision to "keep the doll" as well as "get rid of the doll". You probably feel some kind of hesitation about making either decision right now. It's likely helpful to examine the reasons for both.

seagull · Post by **seagull** » Sun May 31, 2020 7:19 pm

Hang in there Kaitlyn D, it's taken a lifetime(so far) to get your head to where it is now.
Not going to change overnight-ish

John100 · Post by **John100** » Mon Jun 01, 2020 7:19 pm

The doll size that you have chosen is rather heavy I would say and myself I not quite sure I would be able to handle that size of doll and I would think you need to be more careful when handling larger dolls do you think if you had a smaller size doll you might be happier please don't get me wrong everyone has personal choices and I could be wrong but I would think that with smaller dolls you can easily dress and undress them hide them in a cupboard more easily and by making things easier it can be more fun

Kaitlyn D · Post by **Kaitlyn D** » Thu Jun 04, 2020 9:49 am

What do you mean with "feels right for me"?

There's no real connection, either emotionally or sexually.

Also:

it's also a good idea to examine your subconscious reaction to the prospect of making a decision to "keep the doll" as well as "get rid of the doll"

I have no qualms about getting rid of it. I haven't looked at it for almost a week now and haven't thought about it either. I don't think it would be a big loss.

The doll size that you have chosen is rather heavy

Really? I thought 30kg was at the lighter end of things.

And it's only 150cm tall, so at the shorter end of the spectrum, too. Maybe I'm stronger than I thought!

kanna · Post by **kanna** » Thu Jun 04, 2020 10:10 am

Kaitlyn D wrote:There's no real connection, either emotionally or sexually.

Kaitlyn D wrote:I have no qualms about getting rid of it. I haven't looked at it for almost a week now and haven't thought about it either. I don't think it would be a big loss.

I have both emotional as well as sexual connection with my own doll. However, if I had the doll you have, I'd probably be saying the very same thing. There are enough things that differ so much from human anatomy that it'd be very hard for me to react to her like I would with a real woman (or as I do with my first doll, Kanna).

Perhaps if you were to hide her body with clothes

But even then, her lips would still make it difficult.

Kaitlyn D wrote:Really? I thought 30kg was at the lighter end of things. And it's only 150cm tall, so at the shorter end of the spectrum, too. Maybe I'm stronger than I thought!

30kg is very much on the lighter end. He is probably mistaken about which model you have.

MoviePilot · Post by **MoviePilot** » Thu Jun 04, 2020 11:53 am

Kaitlyn D wrote:
There's no real connection, either emotionally or sexually.

One question:
Has there ever been one, I mean, before you actually bought her?

From a personal point of view. Thing is, there's sooo many doll bodies out there and of those, only a few I really find attractive. Next to this, of all heads that are available for a specific body type, again, only very very few of them 1. really fit that body design and 2. that I really enjoy looking at, not only for 1 minute.

I remember back then when I bought my first doll, a WM155DD + #46 head. While waiting for her to arrive I spent really a lot of time in looking at all available images showing exactly that combination. It definitely was a hard waiting time but the joy was even bigger once I had my very own hottie in my hands.

How exactly did you pick the doll and more importantly the head initially? Did you already have that feeling of being attracted to her, i.e. something like "Babe, I need to hug you right now"?

P.S. as already mentioned, putting some clothes on her will help a lot. Just like the real deal, a fully naked person doesn't look as good as if it's wearing - at least a little - something.

doll_obsession · Post by **doll_obsession** » Thu Jun 04, 2020 3:39 pm

I know this has been said a few times already, but giving it some time makes a big difference. When I got my first doll it felt really awkward and weird, and it took some time to get used to. They have grown on me so slowly and gradually, that I didn't even realize it at first. But now I simply can't imagine my life without dolls, and I don't want to. In fact, I think if I went back to dating, that would feel even weirder to me than the dolls feel now. Funny how that works...

seagull · Post by **seagull** » Fri Jun 05, 2020 12:29 am

Kaitlyn D
Lighter and heavier are very subjective terms.
Your physique determines what is heavy or light to you.
Going red in the face while lifting is a good sign you could be going to hurt for a day or so

Ashajin · Post by **Ashajin** » Mon Jun 15, 2020 7:04 pm

My perspective is probably pretty different than most, but as per another member's response ("let [your] freak flag fly")... here goes:

I believe that, like tarot, dolls absorb or reflect the energy of those around them, naturally bringing in what they're inclined to. Dolls absolutely develop personality over time, and that personality develops over that time because of the energy you give while you're around them. They absorb it, and some day look at you like they always did... but this time there's something there and you blink and wonder "WTF"...

You might give her time, and let your energy interplay. Start with talking to her, literally just sit and look at her and say "I'm really not sure what to do with you" (if you haven't already). Come back from work the next day and be sheepish why you tell her about your day - you may not be able to "hear" her, but if it's your nature to be sweet and need, let her see that. We expect sex dolls to serve their purpose, but for some people you have to get to know them before you roll them, just like a human.

After that, you might allow your head to "schitz" a little..

Imagine an answer, though you don't physically hear one. Dolls aren't people and we're used to interacting with humans - think of it as a new non-human relation, except that she'll never leave you, never bitch you out, never hurt you on purpose and yet, "feel" badly if you're moving her and her foot lands on your toe. You've been giving positive energy this whole time, why wouldn't she?

After all that - a week or three - it may just be that you can't overcome the feelings you thought would be relieved. Is it the doll, or is it you? Can she help you with it, or is it straight up just not the thing you thought? After that she can be removed from your domicile, she can be replaced with something that absorbs different energy (that was mentioned in this thread too, she literally might not be the right individual for you).

Either way, we're emotional beings. It's "normal" to have it not be your thing... but it's "normal" to miss her once she's gone, so brace yourself for that, too.

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Updated/corrected, 6/15)

Kaitlyn D wrote:Wow, that was a fast response from a lot of people - thank you all!

So the doll is the JY150cm muscular doll. I believe someone who posts here helped design it. I never found out the number of the head but it seems to go by the name Lesley in most places. Blue eyes.

I saw it on Aliexpress ages ago and took an interest, but then didn't really trust buying it from there. I'd seen positive and negative reviews and I wasn't quite prepared to risk it. Then I found a place in the UK (that's where I'm based) that could order it for a good price, which I did.

Expectations. Difficult, that.

I'd been in a relationship with someone for eleven years, then suddenly got cast aside for someone else. Sad, I know. Broke my heart. I definitely wasn't ready for another relationship. Left it a year, was actually quite happy on my own.

The dolls became a curiosity during that time. I'm reasonably adventurous when it comes to sex and I'm willing to give most things a go. I didn't see the doll as companionship, but more of a plaything. That was what I expected from one anyway. I picked that particular doll because it was the one that excited me most. The pictures of it online are stunning. In all fairness, the doll matches up to them pretty well. I was very impressed with both the quality of design and manufacture.

So what's the problem? Not sure really. I notice a lot of people on here refer to their dolls as 'she' or 'he' and talk about them by name. I don't think of mine as anything but an 'it'. But even if it was just a sex toy, I don't really seem to have that interest in it. It looks like a human but it isn't one - that weirds me out a bit. And it's too human to be a simple toy.

Hmmm...